Emotional Intelligence: A Navigating Key to Marriage Dysfunction

Balqis Olabisi POPOOLA; Olayemi Zainab  ODUOLA; Rasheedah Toluwase  IMAM

Balqis Olabisi POPOOLA Department of Educational Management and Counselling, Al-Hikmah University, Ilorin, Kwara State, Nigeria.
Olayemi Zainab ODUOLA Federal University of Health Sciences, Ila-Orangun, Osun State, Nigeria.
Rasheedah Toluwase IMAM Department of Mental Health/Psychiatric Nursing, Faculty of Nursing Sciences, Al-Hikmah University, Ilorin, Kwara State, Nigeria.

Keywords: Emotional Intelligence, Marriage Dysfunction, Conflict Resolution, Empathy, Self-Awareness.

Abstract

Background of Study: Marital dysfunction remains a significant issue in contemporary society, often caused by emotional mismanagement and poor interpersonal dynamics. Emotional Intelligence (EI), which includes self-awareness, empathy, and emotional regulation, has been identified as a crucial factor in maintaining healthy marital relationships.

Aims and Scope of Paper: This study explores the role of Emotional Intelligence (EI) as both a preventive and corrective mechanism for marital dysfunction. It specifically focuses on enhancing communication, conflict resolution, and emotional intimacy between partners, aiming to highlight the impact of EI on marital satisfaction and stability.

Methods: The research employed a qualitative phenomenological design, engaging 20 married individuals (10 men and 10 women) from urban and semi-urban areas in southwestern Nigeria. Participants had at least five years of marital experience. Data were collected through in-depth semi-structured interviews and analyzed thematically to identify patterns in emotional behavior, communication, and conflict management.

Results: The findings revealed that couples with higher levels of EI tended to communicate more effectively, resolve conflicts constructively, and nurture empathy and understanding. This contributed to preventing emotional detachment and marital dysfunction. In contrast, couples with lower EI levels experienced frequent misunderstandings, emotional disconnection, and unresolved disputes. Real-life case scenarios demonstrated the transformative impact of EI on relationship satisfaction and resilience.

Conclusion: Emotional Intelligence plays a significant role in marital stability and satisfaction. The development of EI can serve as a proactive tool in preventing dysfunction and enhancing emotional synergy between partners. The study emphasizes the importance of integrating EI training into marital counseling and relationship enrichment programs, contributing to the growing body of literature on EI.

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